Here are three tips you can use to master this balance.
1. Lean on co-workers and treat them as valuable resources
When you see that someone else is achieving great things or excelling in their own career, a natural tendency might be to compete with them and go head-to-head and use their success as your own motivation.
Naturally, there’s nothing wrong with that, but there’s definitely a better way to go about things when trying to advance in your career. Instead of immediately sizing yourself up, why don’t you learn from them:
- Find out how they landed their role.
- Ask for their insights into the process and experience.
- Pick their brain.
If you are in the exact same industry or position, will working together in those instances make you vulnerable and be your downfall? Studies have found that when collaborating with your competitive co-workers, it makes everyone better. So, while it seems counterintuitive at best, leaning on and even collaborating with some of your fiercest competitors can mean positive things for the both of you.
2. Celebrate genuinely for other people’s success
It’s hard to stay focus and “supportive” if you’re frequently ignoring and downplaying the accomplishments of others. As much as you might want to skip on the high 5s in favor of grinding even harder toward your own goals, the best thing you can do is join in on those celebrations. This goes a long way in establishing that encouraging and supportive reputation you’re trying to show.
Well-deserved “congratulations” definitely is noticed and actually has shown to boost production overall. So, you not only lend your support and offer some praise, but you also get to sink up some of that joy for yourself. Being a positive empath will give you a push in the right direction.
3. Ask for help and don’t be shy
A lot of us are resistant to asking for help. Many of us view it as a sign of weakness, especially when we’re in an environment that’s already competitive. There’s also an uncommon fear of rejection that prevents us from sticking our neck out to ask for assistance, but research has shown that we dramatically underestimate how much people are willing to help.
Benefit from an introduction to someone outside of your network or some sound advice on a complex problem. Well, you need to swallow your pride and explicitly ask for this type of assistance. Proving that you obviously trust and value the insights and opinions of others, is a win-win.